If you'll recall, I scored a whopping 7.5/9 (Daisy, from Daisy, Roo and Two, who got me onto this, actually gave me a 8/9). In case you don't understand, that means I had sex 8 out of 9 days!!
This week has not been so successful (hanging my head in shame).
This is how it went:
Day 10: Hubby decided he was too tired (more on that later).
Day 11: We went out and got back home after midnight and by the time we were done getting the kids to bed, I had no energy left. Thankfully hubby didn't either!
Day 12: We decided to have a bit of a romantic time and put the kids to bed early and got ourselves a movie and nachos. It was all very sweet, and a great start to the evening, with my best intentions of getting back on track with the challenge.
Day 15: Gave hubby little hints during dinner but as soon as we got to bed, bub got up and by the time I fed him and got back to bed, hubby was fast asleep. I could've woken him up of course, but... Nah!
So the score as of today: 10/15.
That's probably still as much sex as we'd normally have had in 2 months, so doing good, but lagging behind somewhat.
I have to say, a few things are becoming obvious to me through this challenge. I'll tell you all about it in my final 'installment'.
For today, I just wanted to comment on how the roles have been reversed a bit between us. Normally it would be hubby initiating sex once or twice a week, and about half that time he'd be successful, and the other half I'd reluctantly play the game, and to put it bluntly, do my marital duty.
But since starting this project, I've been initiating EVERY time, and almost every day. And it's done two things:
1. It's taken the pressure off me somewhat. You know? Going to bed and having that feeling of "Aaaargh, is he going to want sex tonight? All I want is sleep!"
It's nice in a way to not be nagged. But I have to say, part of me is a little hurt when he doesn't want it (usually because he's tired). It's giving me a little bit of insight into what it must be like for him to be rejected
I've finally also downloaded the emotional needs questionnaire and I'm hoping to do it with Hubby tomorrow. I'll also be telling him about the sex challenge (about time isn't it?!).
I'll let you know how he takes it.